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Lowering the Bar and Keeping Sight of What Counts – Episode 253

In this episode, Dara is considering the merits of low bars. How can you talk about heatwaves when it’s only 18 degrees? Very easily actually, when you live in Ireland! How can you celebrate being the fourth worst team in the league? With the greatest of ease when your team has underachieved so badly for two straight years. But it’s a fine line between understanding the usefulness of lowered expectations and giving in to total complacency and the complete absence of any standards at all.

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A Free Gift of Love – You’re Welcome! – Episode 249

In this episode Dara is reckoning with the elusive nature of grace. According to the major religions, and Judaism specifically, it is ‘a free gift of love’ from the Almighty. But if not given by God, from where else might it come? Is it something that we can bestow on ourselves? What conditions need to be in place for that to happen? Is it possible it might come from the award-winning TV show The Pitt?

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The One Good Idea Episode! – Episode 246

Is there one good idea in this episode? Dara admits he is all over the place at the moment. He is not burnt out, just a bit overwhelmed. Between ageing parents in need of comprehensive care, trying to find work, doing a masters, and just keeping up with the normal day-to-day demands, it feels like a lot. So he sits down at the mic without a plan and decides to see if anything comes to him.

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Games, Conditions, and Invisible Cruelties – Love According to Laing – Episode 244

In this episode, Dara is considering Scottish psychiatrist R.D. Laing’s proposition that “love is a cover for violence”. Informed by Game Theory and the work he did with twelve female schizophrenic patients in the 1960s, Laing came to believe the manipulative interpersonal dynamics that were playing out behind closed doors were effectively driving the Glasgow housewives mad. However, Laing concluded that the madness was a form of self-defence and arguably the only sane response to the oppressive nature of what the women were experiencing.

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Listen, Think, Talk – The Deeper Connection Toolkit – Episode 243

In this episode, Dara is leaning into the power of conversation as a means cultivating deeper thought and connection, both with others and with the self. Bumping up against parts of ourselves we would rather weren’t there at all, he argues for a radical humility that completely removes the ego from the equation. Aren’t we much better equipped to assess ourselves if we can do so without the burden of ego and its expectations?

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Underestimating Resilience and the Communication of Important Things – Episode 195

In this episode, Dara is looking at the value of letting others know what’s important to you. How else are the people in your life meant to know what you care about? He argues that this can not only help to strengthen the relationships that matter most, but also mitigate against disappointment and unmet expectations. However, it is useful to keep those expectations fair and realistic.

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Scene from a Garden – Tall Trees, High Kicks, and Low, Low Wages – Episode 163

In this episode, Dara is taking time to express thanks to a place that has served him well over the last few years, and he’s so determined to do so in a special way that he moves the podcast to the location he’s honouring! At the end, when a certain flying creature appears, it’s time to bring things to a close. No, it’s not a dragon…

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