In this episode, Dara is decompressing after a week of shifting boxes and furniture. A new home and a new phase await. What is living going to be like under a different roof, between different walls, looking out at different views? And how do you recalibrate after such literal and energetic upheaval?
Navigating Inner and Outer States – Episode 267 Read More »
In this episode, Dara is apologising for going missing last week, but he has a good excuse – he was in hospital! Struck down with a level of pain he had never previously experienced, he had to abandon his journey to get help and have an ambulance come to the rescue. It turned out it was just a little old kidney stone! The disruption to his normally rude good health gives reason for pause. What is it to be well? And what does care look like?
Feeling It In Your Guts! Connection vs Fracture – Episode 260 Read More »
In this episode, Dara is considering the concept of scaffolding and how it might be applied as a wellness metaphor. Utilised in the world of developmental psychology to describe evolving stages of cognitive growth and early learning, the basic idea relates to baby steps and layered instruction to help someone become more independent. Borrowing also from the world of construction, why can’t scaffolding be applied to self-care?
Props, Struts, and Straps – the Scaffolding of Self-Support – Episode 256 Read More »
In this episode, Dara is considering the merits of low bars. How can you talk about heatwaves when it’s only 18 degrees? Very easily actually, when you live in Ireland! How can you celebrate being the fourth worst team in the league? With the greatest of ease when your team has underachieved so badly for two straight years. But it’s a fine line between understanding the usefulness of lowered expectations and giving in to total complacency and the complete absence of any standards at all.
Lowering the Bar and Keeping Sight of What Counts – Episode 253 Read More »
In this episode, Dara is wondering how 250 episodes have come along so quickly. It hasn’t been an effortless process by any means, but somehow the show (or ‘the tell’) has kept trundling along, quietly going about its business. And what business is that, exactly?
Nobody Asked For This! – the 250th Episode ‘Celebration’ – Episode 250 Read More »
In this episode Dara is reckoning with the elusive nature of grace. According to the major religions, and Judaism specifically, it is ‘a free gift of love’ from the Almighty. But if not given by God, from where else might it come? Is it something that we can bestow on ourselves? What conditions need to be in place for that to happen? Is it possible it might come from the award-winning TV show The Pitt?
A Free Gift of Love – You’re Welcome! – Episode 249 Read More »
In this episode, Dara keeps it in low gear as he attempts to conserve energy and resist the temptation to force anything. Most of all, he is determined to be uninteresting and anything but entertaining. He knows his credo and he’s sticking to it!
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In this episode, Dara considers the power of defying expectations. Partly prompted by a conversation with his dementia-affected father, his thoughts are also informed by a New York psychologist who worked with first responders to World Trade Center attacks. Role-reversal can be both destabilising and disarming, but it rarely goes unnoticed, and it often provokes both consternation and resentment.
Flipping the Script and Messing with Expectations – Episode 230 Read More »
In this episode, Dara is wondering who the enemy is. Finding himself symbolically shaking his fist at the clouds, he tries to work out who exactly he was angry with, and why. His wife used Jedi mind powers to flip the script which only stoked his fire further. The two choices available to him were obvious, and one was certainly not going to end well…
The Wisdom of Humanising the Enemy – Episode 225 Read More »
Embattled by consecutive migraines, Dara is reckoning with a system under pressure. He attempts to own the state he’s in while advocating for a deeper connection with what lies beneath all the turbulence. This line of enquiry leads to thoughts on observing a month’s mind for Pepper, the family dog. A phrase used by the Venerable Bede in relation to that tradition inspired a new poem, which is shared.
What Are We Looking For? Warm Blood and Sensory Connection! – Episode 220 Read More »
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