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Underestimating Resilience and the Communication of Important Things – Episode 195

In this episode, Dara is looking at the value of letting others know what’s important to you. How else are the people in your life meant to know what you care about? He argues that this can not only help to strengthen the relationships that matter most, but also mitigate against disappointment and unmet expectations. However, it is useful to keep those expectations fair and realistic.

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Men Need Not Apply – Women Who Leave Men Behind – Episode 183

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In this episode, Dara looks at the idea of psychological defeat and the metaphorical hills we are determined to die on. Fundamentally an issue of faith in one’s own psyche and worldview, what happens when our confidence in that vision begins to crumble? Can faith be restored?

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The Humble Art of Reading the Room, or It’s Not All About You! – Episode 181

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In this episode, Dara shares final thoughts on the US presidential election and speculates that the Democrats still haven’t shaken the patronising habit of belittling those who disagree with them. He argues that if you take this attitude in the world of martial arts, you are setting yourself up to fail – the assumption of superiority is a dangerous flex of ego that can result in complacency and abdicated diligence.

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You Have It So Easy! Resentment, Ease, and Reaching for the Good – Episode 176

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In this episode, Dara considers the elements that contribute to our resentment buckets and shoulder chips. He believes time and the ease of others are two key ingredients in the mix. He confesses to giving voice to some very uncharitable resentfulness around the time he became a father. He also speaks carefully around a significant source of resentment in his marriage.

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Innocence, Sex, and Sophistication: Who Do We Connect With and Why? – Episode 141

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In this episode, Dara responds to a music podcast he found surprisingly moving by exploring the idea of connection. Why do certain things or people connect with us more powerfully than others? What is it that speaks to us about a particular individual, or their work? And what is it about music and musicians and movies and actors that can so enrapture us?

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Don’t Turn Off the Lights! or, Have You Made Room for Romance? – Episode 129

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In this episode Dara reveals that he is unaccustomed to the comfort of pajamas. This fact is relevant to a very recent late-night incident that he shares. That same incident concluded with an inherent contradiction relating to the presence of both love and rejection.

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Getting the Words Out, or The Things We Find Impossible to Say – Episode 127

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In this episode, Dara is exercised by the things we don’t say. Why is it so difficult to express how we really feel to those we have known longest? Why do we communicate so tangentially and clumsily? What intricate layering process happens to put truth so far out of easy reach?

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The Receptive Mind and Men Who Don’t Talk – Episode 125

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In this episode Dara looks at dynamics of giving and receiving in relationships. He argues that having a true exchange with someone is impossible unless that dynamic is present and healthy.

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Naked As The Day You Were Born, or A Question of Exposure – Episode 118

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In this episode, Dara realises he omitted to mention three things in relation to the theme of nudity: shame, Viggo Mortensen’s willingness to bare all, and a ridiculous story from his acting school days that featured nudity, singing, and money! Things he may have to return to next week…

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relationships

Underestimating Resilience and the Communication of Important Things – Episode 195

Men Need Not Apply – Women Who Leave Men Behind – Episode 183

The Humble Art of Reading the Room, or It’s Not All About You! – Episode 181

You Have It So Easy! Resentment, Ease, and Reaching for the Good – Episode 176

Time

Innocence, Sex, and Sophistication: Who Do We Connect With and Why? – Episode 141

Don’t Turn Off the Lights! or, Have You Made Room for Romance? – Episode 129

Getting the Words Out, or The Things We Find Impossible to Say – Episode 127

The Receptive Mind and Men Who Don’t Talk – Episode 125

Naked As The Day You Were Born, or A Question of Exposure – Episode 118

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